Connected......

i jus have a movie with my classmates which the movie title is about 'connected'...actually the movie regard a lot about interpersonal communication...the story of the movie is begin with a girl is been catch by a group of bastard international police and they catch the girl because they want get back a video tape which the tape is record the process of the group people who kill other people!!the record is take by the girl brother...actually the girl and her brother is just a victim...and when the girl is been catch and lock inside a cottage...she is think of the way to going out the cottage...inside the cottage has a phone and she is trying to make a phone call but unlucky the villain see it and broke the phone...but the girl is so clever of she is trying repair back the phone by connect back the phone wire...she is try to connect a blue colour and red colour wire and just use the wire to dial a number which can be connect...luckily she is get connect to a number and which the phone number is a guy...she tell the guy she is in danger and call the guy to help her but the guy is call she don't play play...beside the girl is a taiwanese and the guy is from hong kong and they just communicate by different languange and they can also understand of each other are talk about..but at the end the guy is believe it and the guy is try helping she by just using the phone and and they are swear between to keep connect with the phone..a lot of problem is happening by the guy when the process she is trying to help the girl...hmm at here i cant explain all the script of the movie to u guys but i advice u guys to have this movie because it actually is a nice movie...but i can tell u guys at the end the guy is really get help the girl!!beside i feel surprise of they just have a interpersonal communication with the girl is just using a broken phone to make a call,so at conclusion phone is really important for us when we stay in emergency....!'NO PHONE,NO LIFE"

An Office Joke

How to accurately express your feelings when communicating with co-workers

It has been brought to management's attention that some Individuals throughout the company have been using foul language during the course of normal conversation with their co-workers. Due to complaints received from some employees who may be easily offended, this type of language will no longer be tolerated. We do however, realise the critical importance of being able to accurately express your feelings when communicating with co-workers. 

Therefore a list of TRY SAYING new phrases has been provided so that proper exchange of ideas and information can continue in an effective manner without risk of offending our more sensitive employees. 

TRY SAYING: Perhaps I can work late. 
INSTEAD OF: When the fuck do you expect me to do this? 

TRY SAYING: I'm certain that is not feasible.
INSTEAD OF: No fucking way. 

TRY SAYING: Really?
INSTEAD OF: You've got to be taking the piss. 

TRY SAYING: Perhaps you should check with... 
INSTEAD OF: Tell someone who gives a shit. 

TRY SAYING: Of course I'm concerned 
INSTEAD OF: Ask me if I give a shit. 

TRY SAYING: I wasn't involved in that project. 
INSTEAD OF: It's not my fucking problem. 

TRY SAYING: That's interesting. 
INSTEAD OF: What the fuck?!?! 

TRY SAYING: I'm not sure I can implement this.
INSTEAD OF: Fuck it, it won't work. 

TRY SAYING: I'll try to schedule that. 
INSTEAD OF: Why the fuck didn't you tell me sooner? 

TRY SAYING: Are you sure this is a problem? 
INSTEAD OF: Who the fuck cares? 

TRY SAYING: He's not familiar with the problem. 
INSTEAD OF: He's got his head up his ass. 

TRY SAYING: So you weren't happy with it? 
INSTEAD OF: Kiss my ass. 

TRY SAYING: I don't think you understand. 
INSTEAD OF: Shove it up your ass. 

TRY SAYING: I love a challenge. 
INSTEAD OF: This job sucks. 

TRY SAYING: You want me to take care of that? 
INSTEAD OF: Who the hell died and made you boss? 

TRY SAYING: I see.

INSTEAD OF: Blow me. 

TRY SAYING: Yes, we really should discuss it. 
INSTEAD OF: Another fucking meeting!!!! 

TRY SAYING: I don't think this will be a problem. 
INSTEAD OF: I really don't give a shit. 

TRY SAYING: He's somewhat insensitive. 
INSTEAD OF: He's a fucking prick. 

TRY SAYING: I think you could use more training. 
INSTEAD OF: You don't know what the fuck you're doing.

Communication in the Leadership Camp

Last week I attended the leadership camp which was organized by the HMC. After every activity that we had done, we had a small group discussion to talk about how did we perform in the previous activity and express our feelings. somehow, my group discussion wasn't that good. I was called the 'pass-girl' in my group because when it's my turn, i would always say 'pass', i always wanna be the last one to talk. It's because I need thinking time. Moreover I'm not an observant person, I'm not aware of the things happen around me. Only when people mention about it I will realise. Therefore during the discussions, i always wanted to listen to others' opinions first before i voice out mine.

on the last day of the camp, we were required to talk about everyone in the group about their strengths and weaknesses. I found that very tough because not everyone could accept the negative comments. Some people would tend to defend themselves. Some people might not voice out what they really thought because they're afraid of offending people.

There was an activity which we were blind folded and walked in a line and we had to walk to our destination on a field. I found communication was important. The leader in front would remind us of the obstacles and we passed the message to the members behind to avoid them from being hurt . Too much communication is not good as well. Some group members had given too many comments and that brought confusion to everyone else in the group, in the end everything was delayed. 

Communication is really situational and it has no one or ideal way. There's still alot more we have to learn about communication

Beauty

Beauty is skin deep,
Beauty is inside you,
Beauty is in your heart.
Beauty can be revealed.

Only by,
Beauty is speech,
Beauty is behavior,
Beauty is actions,
Beauty is how you carry yourself,
Beauty is when someone portrays ones trueself.



-Nanda Kumar-

THE INADEQUACY OF HUMAN COMMUNICATION

Do you experience what I am saying?

Language is almost certainly an invention of the rational mind (seated in the neocortex of the human brain), and it is most probably the only part of the mind that can use words to think. I would guess that other parts of mind use pictures, patterns, or symbols as tools of thought rather than using words.

Words are extremely abstract ?a combination of sounds to designate a specific concept (an abstract of mind to indicate some aspect of reality). It is not necessary to use words when thinking, but words certainly help us to communicate with each other.

I would think that very primitive organisms probably start of by differentiating between levels of light and dark, cold and heat, or muck and food (feeling, taste, and smell). The next step would be that of discerning different forms (a primitive eye) and then perceiving patterns (repetitive forms) in these forms.

Your dog, and/or cat, can ead?your intentions and feelings very clearly, by observing and analysing the different patterns you weave into your daily live, and vice versa. Just but ask any pet owner.

An early way of understanding and thinking rationally would be by using symbols. Symbols can then be the start of language. I think that the different layers of the human brain still work in this very way.

Life is much about patterns and hierarchies, and the encoding of these patterns and hierarchies into symbols and language as information.

However, language is an extremely limited artefact to use in communication. Whatever I experience is my attern that connects?me to reality, and to explain that to somebody else I need language, art, mathematics, et cetera.

However, no means of human communication is truly adequate to explain reality; we can but only approximate by mapping (or modelling) reality.

Your physical experiences are already very tough to communicate to somebody else; your emotional experiences are even tougher; spiritual and mystical experiences are impossible! Other people inner experiences unquestionably exist, but they can never be observed by our ordinary senses.

This then is my problem: How do I communicate with you about concepts like life, spirit, the soul, mind, and consciousness? How do I communicate about God, reality, love, and my pain and joy? The only way I can think of to communicate with you (especially over distance and time) is by means of the very restricted lingual apparatus of analogy and metaphor.

Video shooting

alright, it's a bit too late to talk about the tutorial class that i had last week. sorry Mr. Murali... lol~

We were supposed to shoot a non-verbal video and present it in the tutorial class. as for my group, we decided to shoot a video about job interview. frankly speaking, our video was the worst among all. nobody understood what we were trying to deliver, no visual effects, no sound effects and bla bla bla. but i would really wanna say thank you to Mr.Murali for not penalizing us. 

but the videos produced by other groups were fantastic. their videos were interesting, humour, and yet meaningful. i was really impressed by that. the most understandable video was the one talking about the triangle love that involved 3 girls. that was clean, simple, nice and can be understood easily.

the funniest one would be leconte's group one. although i didn't really know what's the theme in the video, but the non-verbal communication among the presenters were very clear, i could know what were they trying to express from their body language and expression easily. 

well, the above are just my little comments about the videos presented in tutorial class B. they are not meant to be offensive XD

Beauty or Brains?

Seriously guys. this is a very debatable topic. and a very controversial one to. well, if you have the brains your suppose to be some smart ass that knows everything that was in Einsteins head. and if your beautiful man or woman, your suppose to attract the opposite sex in no time. well based on many studies and statistic, it has shown that attractive people get jobs more easily compared to the people with the brains. well, to me people with the excess of both have high self-esteem. one thinks they are damn good looking and another things that they know every single thing known to mankind. to me, they are both arrogant people( I AM JUST GENERALIZING). i know many people who are damn good looking and damn smart but are damn down to earth people. but anyways, well i think you need a mixture of both in order to survive and the thing that counts the most is the INNER BEAUTY one possess. the only way this inner beauty is revealed, well is by the way one portrays himself or herself. what i mean here is, when the person converses with another, the tone and the politeness in his or her speech is the real beauty of a person. besides a persons conversing skills, a person inner beauty can be potrayed when he or she shows how they behave. the way a person behaves in different situation also shows the beauty of a person. the way a person carries and walks also shows what kinda attitude the person has. basiclly the a person carries themselves shows the beauty in them. the way a person acts while communicating with different kind of parties also show a beauty of a person. lastly, a beauty of a person can be shown with the kind of attitude that person has towards many situation. to me, too look beautiful, you have to be ethical and humble in what ever your doing at all times.

MOVIE

Today, lecturer let us see a movie. Hmm...it is nice and touching...In the movie, the relationship between the father and the daughter is very close. At first, the father is very worry and care about his daughter as he does not allow her to study at Georgetown college which is very far from his house. His daughter start feeling her father very irritating and start argue to him. The end of this movie is the father start realise his daughter is not a small girl already and start trust her that she will take good care of herself. In this story, i know the communication between family members is very important in order to get close to each other and build a happy family. Hence. we have to spend more time to understand others feelings and opinions and always chat to our family members.

Taxi services......

taxi can be say that is a major transport for me to going back....after finish class i will car pool my friend and my friend will stop me at bus stop that is around his house...the distance from his house to my house need around 15 minutes although the distance is just short i consider to take taxi because i hate to waste my time to waiting for the bus coming and from there,i need take two times of bus just can be arrive my house...besides i hate crowded!!^.^ya now i want to complaint about taxi services...i hate taxi which the air-cond have problem,especially the taxi i take today..the taxi driver is open all the window down then i not sure what's wrong of the air-cond but u can imagine that the hot sun on afternoon and the sweat is all coming out...that time i really want to scold the taxi driver but i try to control myself...that is a problem around here,recently for the news which is about the taxi service in our country..the research say that malaysia is the number first most bad taxi services for democratic and tourists..because they have bad attitude,open a high price to go each location,no manners and so on!!i also agree about that sometimes i told the taxi driver the actual direction i want to go,they back me'i pun tau la hanya ada jalan ni jer mana ada jalan lain lagi,takya kau bagitau'aiks i just want kindly to tell but their temper really bad x1000!!So,i hope that the people who incharge can take action about that to prevent lower the image about our country....i really hope that their services can be improve to make everyone is feel happy to take taxi in our country or may be the taxi driver can give some smile or greeting to their passenger and talk polite to them!!not like talk like want to fight or others..if can be acheive that our country is a country who everyone recommend!!Malaysia boleh!!!

Interpersonal Communication: Self-Disclosure

Ireland's Cultural Influence

Tips for Understanding Nonverbal Communication

• Recognize that people communicate on many levels. Watch their facial expressions, eye contact, posture, hand and feet movements, body movement and placement, and appearance and passage as they walk toward you. Every gesture is communicating something if you listen with your eyes. Become accustomed to watching nonverbal communication and your ability to read nonverbal communication will grow with practice.
• If a person’s words say one thing and their nonverbal communication says another, you are wont to listen to the nonverbal communication – and that is usually the correct decision.
• Assess job candidates based on their nonverbal communication. You can read volumes from how the applicant sits in the lobby. The nonverbal communication during an interview should also elucidate the candidate’s skills, strengths, weaknesses, and concerns for you.
• Probe nonverbal communication during an investigation or other situation in which you need facts and believable statements. Again, the nonverbal may reveal more than the person’s spoken words.
• When leading a meeting or speaking to a group, recognize that nonverbal cues can tell you:--when you’ve talked long enough,--when someone else wants to speak, and --the mood of the crowd and their reaction to your remarks.Listen to them and you’ll be a better leader and speaker.

In the light of this, non-verbal communication is a part and parcel in our life. We have to know more about it.

I belive in a superstition!

Yes, this is based on years of watching football! I belive eveytime Liverpool Fc are involved in a big game and i go watch it outside with my frens. THEY LOSE! like in the champions league finals, when they won it in Istanbul i was watching the game from home and 2 seasons later they played again in the finals. I watched it out with my friends! They lost!............. I belive i'm a superstitious guy!

Acting, experience?

I came a cross my 1st acting experience when i was in standard 6. But the role i had in this particular experience was a small one. If you Malaysian's remember the TV comedy series Kopitiam, well yes i featured on it. I had a very small role as on of the school students in this certain episode of a school. The scene took place in my primary school, Sekolah Kebangsaan Kampung Tunku. Im not entirely sure how the story went, but yeah it was a school scene and one of my friends was the student star in the episode. We were all thought by a psychotic teacher in school, and in the end we were all saved by a buff lookin dude?... oh well, i cant remember how the story was again. Oh well i have pictures... hopefully you'll still remember some of the actors from the series.=)

I like Non-verbal communication

our tutorial class for this week is about non-verbal communication video....mr.murali want each group member to prepared the video which is about non-verbal communicate...actually each group done their own video quick nice...i like every title which is done by other group include my own group one!!the video is make me more understand about what is non-verbal communication...non-verbal communication is like just communicate with the people without talk out the word...just like a dumb person they communicate with their friend or partner by hand..then they can understand what they are going to say...so non-verbal communication also can be consider is that kind...i'm right???

Non Verbal Communication

Meanings rest in people, not in words

We had a group activity in last tutorial class. Few people sitting together and reading newspaper...? oh nono... I mean we were required to find phrases or words from the newspaper to make a sentence that have more than 1 meaning. At first, we found it quite difficult to combine the phrases or words. But as we flipped through the newspaer, we actually saw many ambiguous phrases. We just have to be creative and think out of the box to find the second meaning of the phrase. Some groups had really creative thinking, they had really made up interesting sentences. Basically, all the groups had done a very good job. After all, I did not just learn how many meaning can a sentence have. Instead, I learnt meanings rest in people, not in words as well. Some sentences that we made up, if we hadn't voiced out the meaning we thought, the others wouldn't have known what else can that sentence mean. So 'meanings rest in people, not in words' is applied in this activity.

Rivalry, Supporters!

For more than forty decades this rivalry has been taking place. The rivalry i refer to is non other than the one between two legendary football clubs Liverpool and Manchester United. You can never say that a match played between these two footballing giants is a waste of time to watch. No matter what positions these two clubs are in the table, once they face of on the pitch. There is no telling what excitement you can expect from them. The players, managers, club owners and the main people who are involved internally feel huge preasure. Besides them, supporters as in the fans of such football clubs play an external part in the clubs victory. As a huge Liverpool supporter since i was 9, i have never missed any important games. As a supporter, all i want is to see the club succeeding so that i can have the rightfull bragging rights! Tonight about 9.45p.m. or so, Liverpool has regained some honour by beating their arch rivals in a 2-1 well deserved fought match. Thier last 8 meetings in the English Barclyas Premiere League yielded 7 wins going Uniteds way and a draw. Hopefully it is a huge lift for the Liverpool players to go on and produce class this season and give supporters like me, the bragging rights!=)

Language

Today, I learn somethings new in the Human Communication tutorial class. I know the important of language. As the lecturer said before, the meanings of language is depend on when and where it is used. There are several rules in the nature of language which are phonological rules, syntactic rules, semantic rules and pragmatic rules. The activity that we have done today is more about semantic rules. A word can has different meanings and it is depends on you on how you use it that apply in the sentences. Besides that, a same sentence can two or more meanings on different situation. The activity is fun as we have to use our creative and critical thinking to do it. Actually, it is tough to me because my English is not that good. Yeah....I learn more new words today and more understand about Human Communication.

Difference between hearing and listening

Listening is using our auditory senses to absorb and it is with understanding or comprehension of what you're hearing. Listening, on the other hand, is consciously trying to hear something. When someone is speaking to you, you are focus on what they are saying, so you are listening to them. On the contrary, hearing is simply your body's ability to sense sound. Hearing just means a noise is striking your eardrums - doesn't mean you're paying it any mind. If something falls unexpectedly, and crashes on the floor, then you are hearing the crash. If a lecture is boring, you hear it just because you have ears to hear but you are not listening to it. If it is interesting, you are listening to it. So, listening is voluntary process while hearing is not.
Hmm...am I right???

Types of Listening

Active listening

-Listening in a way that demonstrates interest and encourages continued speaking.

Appreciative listening

-Looking for ways to accept and appreciate the other person through what they say. Seeking opportunity to praise.

-Alternatively listening to something for pleasure, such as to music.

Attentive listening

-Listening obviously and carefully, showing attention.

Biased listening

-Listening through the filter of personal bias.

Casual listening

-Listening without obviously showing attention. Actual attention may vary a lot.

Comprehension listening

-Listening to understand. Seeking meaning (but little more).

Content listening

-Listening to understand. Seeking meaning (but little more).

Critical listening

-Listening in order to evaluate, criticize or otherwise pass judgment on what someone else says.

Deep listening

-Seeking to understand the person, their personality and their real and unspoken meanings and motivators.

Dialogic listening

-Finding meaning through conversational exchange, asking for clarity and testing understanding.

Discriminative listening

-Listening for something specific but nothing else (eg. a baby crying).

Empathetic listening

-Seeking to understand what the other person is feeling. Demonstrating this empathy. 

Evaluative listening

-Listening in order to evaluate, criticize or otherwise pass judgment on what someone else says.

False listening

-Pretending to listen but actually spending more time thinking.

Full listening

-Listening to understand. Seeking meaning.

High-integrity listening

-Listening from a position of integrity and concern.

Inactive listening

-Pretending to listen but actually spending more time thinking.

Informative listening

-Listening to understand. Seeking meaning (but little more).

Initial listening

-Listening at first then thinking about response and looking to interrupt.

Judgmental listening

-Listening in order to evaluate, criticize or otherwise pass judgment on what someone else says.

Partial listening

-Listening most of the time but also spending some time day-dreaming or thinking of a response. 

Reflective listening

-Listening, then reflecting back to the other person what they have said.

Relationship listening

-Listening in order to support and develop a relationship with the other person.

Sympathetic listening

-Listening with concern for the well-being of the other person. 

Therapeutic listening

-Seeking to understand what the other person is feeling. Demonstrating this empathy. 

Total listening

-Paying very close attention in active listening to what is said and the deeper meaning found through how it is said.

Whole-person listening

-Seeking to understand the person, their personality and their real and unspoken meanings and motivators.

'It is funny"........Human Cluedo

today i gonna to say about the thing that happened in the tutorial class for last week....in the class we will have a game about human cluedo....actually i really dunno what is human cluedo..there are five member in the group and each have their own character...the story is started about the play girl 1 which is already die and she is dunno about how she is die..so we guys need to think about the story...actually the story is such crazy...each of the character have their different of the story...the playgirl 1 is say the different happening and the playgirl 2 as a china maid has a dog which almost follow her but the chef is say that they are not has a dog in their house....."omg" i'm feel that what's the hell is going on... it really make me feel confuse about the story!A guy is almost ask every character about did u sex with who who who like that...i'm feel that the guy have a 'dirty mind'..hehe!!!But it is fun....the most funny part is the character whose as a butler he is really blur...when we ask the question he always answer 'har''har' and we ask that who is the owner of the house he also answer 'har'...really dunno what he mean of the 'har'...but he as a butler who almost open the door also dunno who is the owner of the house...haiz is really 'tak boleh tahan'.....*.*Actually the game izit different character will talk the different story to make us confuse or they never prepared what want to be talk???hmmm....how arh??or the story is about love??i think i need to think myself is how.....hehe!!!tats all.....

My understanding of Human Communication

After 2 weeks of human communication classes, I found it's really an interesting subject to learn. Yes, I mean to learn, not to be tested on. The definition of Human communication, as according to the textbook or the notes given by Mr. Murali, is the process of humans responding to symbolic behaviour. From the Wikipedia, I found another term of Human Communication which is Anthroposemiotics. 

Ok, I know it's too late to talk about the definition of Human Communication while we are in Chapter 3 already. But besides the official answer, what else do we know about human communication? Apparently I do not know anything, lets discover the undiscovered!

As I know, Human Communication is not just about Communication, Mass Communication or whatever... Human Communication is in our daily life. It is not just a subject, knowledge or information, it is part of our life. We communicate with people everyday. Even if we don't talk, we still communicate by using body language. To communicate with others, it is not neccesary to talk, we can have many different ways to deliver our messages to others.

At the moment, that's all I know about Human Communication. I'll tell you more when I've discovered the undiscovered. XD

Welcome human communication

hmmm....hai everybody thankyou for have a look of our blog.....i know u guys will feel surprise about our blog name...our blog name actually which is transfer by other language...actually the meaning of our blog name is about 14weeks with human communication course...that is also mean that we need to post our blog continueously for 14 weeks!!!For my first,when i gonna to choose this subject...i just feel the course is teach smthg like how to communicate with human or may be i'm feel it is useful for me in the mass communication course cause i gonna taking mass comm course in degree program!!!But,my thinking is wrong...in the first class...our beloved lecturer mr.murali is say that actually human communication is not really regard with mass comm course and the continue lesson i started feel that human communication is not just study how to communicate with human...human communication actually is teach us a lot about communicate...such like with the animal,public,in a group and etc!!!It also teach that different race also can be communicate of each language...not only of the problem u are indian then i cant communicate with you because of i cant speak tamil..u guys know what i mean……^.^I hope that with human communication course it can teach me a lot about communicate and so on!!

To be continue......

Facial Expressions

Many facial expressions have been identified as having an innate basis in humans. The evidence for this assertion comes from three lines of evidence:

Comparative ethology with non-human animals.

The human play face is characterized by a loose gape with the upper teeth often shown while the lower teeth are hidden by the lower lips drawn over the teeth. Play faces are often seen when people are rough-housing. It serves as a signal that the play fighting is not real. Play faces are also seen when a dominant individual is playing with a subordinate. Note the play face shown by the young girl playing with the puppies (note also that one of the puppies is smiling). The play face is also seen in a variety of non-human animals and it serves the same function.

Existence of the trait in physically handicapped children.

Play faces are also seen in blind or deaf-blind children.

Cross-cultural studies.

If a behavior is exhibited across all cultures studied, the assumption is that it is innate. One of the first examples of a behavior fitting these characteristics is the eyebrow flash. The eyebrow flash serves as a recognition signal and as an invitation for interaction. Other facial expressions that are seen cross-culturally include expressions of anger and rage, worry or anxiety, and fear faces.

Manual communication

Manual communication systems use articulation of the hands (hand signs, gestures) to mediate a message between persons. Being expressed manually, they are received visually, and sometimes factually. Manual communication, when it is a primary form of communication, may be enhanced by body language and facial expressions and other forms of communication.

Manual communication is employed in systems that are codes for spoken languages and with natural languages, such as in sign languages.

Other, simple forms of manual communication have also been developed. They are neither natural languages nor even a code that can fully render one. They communicate with a very limited set of signals about an even smaller set of topics and have been developed for situations where speech is not practical or permitted, or secrecy is desired.

Authentic Human communication

Authentic Human communication is constantly drowned beneath the deafening racket of an inhumane and insane multinational corporate system. This system dominates our collective reality. Behind every advertisement – a baton; behind every “new and improved” product – a canister of teargas; behind every T.V. show- a tank; behind every newspaper – a prison cell; and behind every textbook – a graveyard. The classroom, the chat room, the bedroom, the church, the psychiatrists couch, the cash register, the answering machine, the office, the bar, the jail- these are all spaces in which we are confronted with our incapacity to speak.

By studying the subject - Human Communication, i know the important of communication among human being. In the light of this, human communication is a part and parcel in our life. Without it, you may difficult to success and communicate with others.